Wednesday, 16. May 2018
Unified Love-Teardrop Theory of inner drives? / Baffari-ja!

The basis of a sort of Unified Theory of what makes people do what they do - in Western society, anyway - to keep appreciation coming, the other day. At least that's what the self-praising part of my persona is hoping for. *-)

My basis is a sort of cap on an established basis, formulated by Riemann in his Basics of Anxiety from over half a century ago. There are basically 4 challenges ("Forderungen") that people experience, and they can be visualised as a 2-dimensional field governed by the following axes:

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Closeness ---------+----------- Distance
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Stability (set boundaries, e.g. me vs. you)
So, basically we desire closeness to be less alone, but seek distance when being near others causes too many constraints on one's life; or we seek stability for its reassurance that life will proceed in a plannable way, but at other times seek change to escape boredom or perceived imprisonment by society.

Now here comes the Unified Theory, that dropped in my head last weekend: What drives us most of all is the need for love. (Hey, the Beatles got it, long ago! Let it be!) And loneliness or just aloneness often means lovelessness, at least here in the o so civilised Western world.

I axiomise that humans notice this, probably subconsciously, all their lives - from the built-in togetherness of children and their parents/siblings, to the societal coercion of having to be in a stable relationship, to the ever-older good-lookers beyond middle age, to the dark, quiet corners of old age, where people are often increasingly alone. Being not always sapient animals, we also - beyond childhood - equate love with sex, and our own capacity to have sex (am I slim/interesting/strong enough?). And in the "good-lookers" phase mentioned above, at around about my age, you get to see much heatedness among peers - & probably they see it in you - of the "final" surge to catch as much "love" as one can get.

I hypothesize that you can overlay the above diagram with a big sideways tear, dropping in from the East: c> -- Inside this tear area we are likely to be loved; outside it we are preparing for the darker end of the life tunnel, of which we are often at least as afraid as of death, I posit. And with time the tear tends to dry up, the "volume" of love decreasing - for most people.

Ergo: We need to become more loving as a society. And as a truly wise species. So says me...


A brief word on vonderfull Bavaria, Germany's southernmost federal state, and its long but unfortunately sure progression into a retrograde police state, increasingly similar to South Africa during the apartheid years. An interview in the current STERN magazine (#20, theme "German police") lays out how far (down!) the now* approved new law goes - what stands out for me is that police now have interminable power of detainment for people suspected (!) of misdeeds (probably in a terrorist or "similar" vein, but who knows - who categorises?)! All that separates this from the bad S. African example of yesteryear is that a judge has to agree. For the moment.

Butt Shermany iss de most civilised cowntry in de world, ja!?

(* since yesterday evening)

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Monday, 30. April 2018
A whole teenage ago: To M. of the future

(People who maintain personal/opinion blogs like this are probably often lonely. Here is 15-years-old proof by me, of a phase when I began to be unrequitedly infatuated with a beautiful & wordwise woman, me thus given to occasional bouts of wild secret prose, in this case at least once unintentionally funny...)


I've always felt it a cop-out to tell a person I'm interested in and who I at the time hope is interested in me: "I warn you, I can be difficult. There are certain times when I can become very hard, however soft I may appear to you now; e.g. I react badly to exploitation - of the I'll-engage-with-you-as-long-as-you-don't-crit-me kind - or manipulation. On the other hand, I'm not one to bear grudges."

It's as if I'm insuring myself against an uncertain future, if, when things developed and then go sour, I can say, "I told you so at the beginning". Friendship or love needs to have an element of true risk, I think - people need to accept that (as I need to, too).

I'd be a fool not to see that you're unsure about wanting to get closer to me. I don't even know if I want to, or want you to; I have my own prejudices against "popular people".

Anyway, I've written the above fast here. Let's hope we get beyond pre-emptive warnings and snap judgements.

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Sunday, 1. April 2018
Swiss family April-foolish thoughts

Neuch√Ętel lake, Switzerland, on a clear end-of-winter day While I'm here helping an accident-downed relative out for a few days, in her new beautiful apartment looking toward the Swiss Alps (cf. view from living room on left), I lennon-like imagine...

  • a new near-septagenarian interior minister, who actually does something about refugees arriving from the South-East, e.g. by getting in tandem with the foreign minister to establish processing consulates in African countries to inform intending migrators of their chances, plus by supporting the foreign aid minister in getting more effective economic help to source countries - rather than prattle on opportunistically about what religion belongs to our national culture or not

  • a labour minister, who, perhaps in tandem with the economic & foreign ministries, finally does something about fair trade via labourers of foreign countries, if fair work is truly a concern of his (as he has said in the past)

  • a young & loud health minister, who does more in his tenure than just stop-gap one tenth of needed personnel in care-for-the-aged institutions

  • a prime minister (or "chancellorette") who doesn't try to "pick up" voters who have browned-out toward the populistic hard right, but e.g. makes the path to citizenship for foreign folk in the country clearer & more achievable, at the same time informing the general public that citizen's rights are strongly/visibly protected by a nation that has - for better or worse - managed to overcome (with a lotta help) the inhuman ravages of fascism!
Is the land I dream of with such governing folk Germany? Hoo nose!

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